John R Selig

Writer. Photographer. Podcaster. Outspoken.

Episode 81 – John Selig Outspoken: The Book – One Person at a Time – A Coming Out Chronicle

John Selig Outspoken – Episode 81 (MP3, 66MB, 57min)
John Selig – A recent photo Rodolfo took of me on our balcony

I share the breakup of my thirteen-year marriage to Linda, the coming to terms with my depression and my coming out of the closet. This was an emotionally difficult period of my life but one where I grew stronger by facing my demons. I became a better parent to my son Nathaniel who remained with me after the divorce. Besides those interested in my life this will prove useful for others who are in or have been in mixed-orientatiion (or as I call them, heterosexless marriages) as well as any person dealing with their own coming out issues. Resources for both gay and straight spouses, their children and people coming out of the closet are also mentioned at the end of the podcast.

Featured Websites, Articles, and Previous Episodes

Straight Spouse Support Network

The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families Amity Pierce Buxton, Ph.D.’s Book

Episode 17: Amity Pierce Buxton, Ph.D., Founder of the Straight Spouse Support Network

Family Equality Council

Episode 31: Jennifer Chrisler, Executive Director of the Family Equality Council

People with a Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer parent

Episode 34: Beth Teper, Executive Director of Colage

Coming Out: An Act of Love, Rob Eichberg’s Book

The Experience Workshop

Episode 7: Honey Ward, Experience Workshop Facilitator

Left Behind – A Special Report; When One Spouse Is Gay And a Marriage Unravels, New York Times, April 4, 1995